Faced with a gleaming wall of jewel-coloured silicone stallions or trying to decide on an shape or colour can be a little overwhelming at times. Use this shopping guide as an aid to get you a toy you’ll enjoy.
Diameter is even more important than length. Choose a dildo with the approximate girth of the number of fingers you like or about the size of a penis you have enjoyed in the past.When in doubt, go smaller. Just like the “eyes bigger than the stomach” phenomenon that happens at buffets, it’s easy to want too much. A toy that’s too big is useless, but a toy that’s a touch small can still make for a pretty good time.
If you’ve got to have a big one, consider a dildo that starts small at the tip and gradually widens in thickness to the base – it will be easier to work in. If the fit is tight at first, only the top portion will comfortably penetrate but as the receiver gets turned on and open, the entire length might slide right in.
Consider the angle. Dildos that are curved will arc up and away from the body when in a harness. If the dildo is straight, it will aim toward the floorboards, owing both to gravity and to the slightly downward tilt of the pelvis. For that reason, stiff dildos with a curve tend to look better and are a little easier to control (without a hand guiding them to their destination). Curved dildos also give better G-spot and prostate stimulation.
Realistic or not? If you don’t want a toy that looks like a human penis, there is a multi-hued world of rippled forms and miniaturized animals to choose from. If you want veins and balls, those are available too. Pick a toy that is sexy to you. If you are using the toy in a harness, get a dildo with a flared, unbendable base. If the base is too small or too soft, it could slip out of the harness.
To mount of not to mount? Some dildos come with suction cup style bases that allow them to be secured to smooth surfaces such as tables or tile, for shower or bath-time fun.
If you can’t decide, get more than one. A major advantage of dildos – they don’t get jealous.